Healthy Living Reality

Author: Natalie

  • Peanut Butter vs. Almond Butter, Sunflower Butter, and More: Cost per Nutrient and More Comparisons

    In Episode 1 of our Peanut Butter Adventures, we talked about peanut butter’s popularity in the US. We also talked about some of the features of peanut butter that make it so appealing. It’s versatile, kid-friendly, and nutritious. 

    In this post, let’s talk about two of my favorite topics: nutrition and cost. We’ll look at key nutrients in peanut butter and compare the cost of peanut to the cost of other sources of these nutrients. 

    Nutrition of Peanut Butter

    Peanut butter has 180 calories per 2-tablespoon serving, or slightly more than an ounce. In the Dietary Guidelines, peanut butter counts as a protein and fat. As a plant-based food, it’s cholesterol-free. 

    Many people know peanut butter for its: 

    • 13 grams of heart-healthy unsaturated fats
    • 7 grams of protein
    • 3 grams of dietary fiber

    This serving also has:

    • 16 grams of fat
    • 3 grams of saturated fat
    • 7 grams of carbohydrates
    • 3 grams of sugar
    • 135 mg of sodium

    It’s a fair source of these vitamins and minerals.

    • 70 mg of magnesium (20% daily value)
    • 3 mg vitamin E (20% daily value)
    • 4 mg niacin (25% daily value)
    • 0.6 mg manganese (25% daily value)
    • 0.18 mg copper (20% daily value)

    And it has a bit more. 

    • 30 mcg folate (7% daily value)
    • 0.13 mg vitamin B6 (8% daily value)
    • 200 mg mg potassium (4% daily value)
    • 0.9 mg zinc (8% daily value)

    Remember that these values are estimates. Specific brands can have slightly different values. 

    Almond Butter, Sunflower, and Chickpea Butter as Nutritional and Functional Alternatives to Peanut Butter

    The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) say about 6 percent of Americans have any type of food allergy. Among children, about 1 in 50 have a peanut allergy. Almond butter, sunflower seed butter, and chickpea butter are common substitutes. 

    Almond Butter: A Close But Pricey Swap

    Almond butter may be the closest substitute for peanut butter in terms of taste, texture, and macronutrients. It’s far pricier, coming in at about $8-$10 per 16-ounce jar. Here’s a jar of Justin’s Almond Butter – one of the more popular brands. Cashew butter has similar costs and nutritional content. 

    Almond butter is increasing in popularity as an alternative to peanut butter.

    Compared to peanut butter, almond butter has more calcium, with 8% of the daily value per 2-tablespoon serving. Almond butter is high in vitamin E, an antioxidant, though peanut butter is also a good source. It also has more riboflavin (vitamin B2), though it’s a common nutrient that you can find in many foods. 

    Peanut butter has slightly more protein and niacin (vitamin B3). 

    Sunflower Butter: An Option if You Have Peanut and Nut Allergies

    Sunflower butter, like SunButter Organic Sunflower Seed Butter in regular, chocolate, and organic varieties, an option if you’re allergic to peanuts and tree nuts like almonds and cashews. It’s especially high in selenium, a mineral which supports antioxidant function in the body. 

    Sunflower seeds have vitamin E, fiber, and heart-healthy fats.

    Compared to sunflower seed butter, peanut butter is higher in protein and fiber. 

    Chickpea Butter: A Legume-Based Option

    Chickpeas, or garbanzo beans, are legumes, just like peanuts are. Chickpea butter is a little different because compared to nuts, seeds, and peanuts, chickpeas or garbanzo beans are naturally lower in fat. To make chickpea butter, you have to add oil. Check the list of ingredients and nutrition facts panel to see what type of oil it contains. Palm oil and hydrogenated oils can add unhealthy saturated fats. 

    Chickpea butter can be higher in folate than peanut butter. It has more fiber, too. Peanut butter is higher in protein and fat. 

    Cost of Peanut Butter Compared to Peanut Butter Substitutes and Other Foods

    Let’s see how peanut butter compares in cost per nutrient compared to almond butter, sunflower seed butter, and chickpea butter at the prices above.

    Food Item Price ($) Cost per Calorie ($/kcal) Cost per gram Protein ($/g) Cost per gram MUFA ($/g) Cost per gram Fiber ($/g)
    Peanut Butter $2.00 $0.0007 $0.02 $0.02 $0.07
    Almond Butter $8.00 $0.0026 $0.09 $0.04 $0.19
    Sunflower Seed Butter $6.00 $0.0021 $0.06 $0.05 $0.14
    Chickpea Butter $6.00 $0.0026 $0.07 $0.33 $0.11

    Cost of Peanut Butter Compared to Other Nutritious Foods

    How does the cost of peanut butter compare to that of other nutritious foods? Let’s look at chicken for protein at $3 per pound, apples for fiber at $1 per pound, and olive oil at $5 for 16 ounces for healthy fats.

    Food Item Price ($) Cost per Calorie ($/kcal) Cost per gram Protein ($/g) Cost per gram MUFA ($/g) Cost per gram Fiber ($/g)
    Peanut Butter $2.00 $0.0007 $0.02 $0.02 $0.07
    Skinless Chicken $3.00 $0.0067 $0.04 $1.24 $inf
    Apples $1.50 $0.0068 $1.36 $75.00 $0.15
    Olive Oil $5.00 $0.0013 $inf $0.02 $inf

    Convenience of Peanut Butter

    Peanut butter is perfect for storing at home and especially for giving away to needy people. Here are some reasons why. 

    • It’s inexpensive, as we talked about above.
    • It doesn’t need refrigeration before opening or afterwards. 
    • You can eat it on its own or with almost anything. 
    • It’s calorie-dense and fairly small, making it easily portable. 

    Do you like peanut butter? What nutrients do you depend on it for? 

  • Peanut Butter Adventures, Episode 1

    Here’s the first installment of my adventures with peanut butter. Sure, I have a growing boy at home, but there’s more to the story. I’ve been making peanut butter sandwiches for a local food pantry for a year. Now, I’m going to hand out jars of peanut butter when I see a need on the streets. Hope you love the adventure! 

    For now, let’s just talk about peanut butter. Next time, we’ll get into some adventures. 

    Peanut Butter as an American Institution

    Peanut butter is one of the best all-around foods. It’s convenient, inexpensive, nutritious, and delicious. Those reasons are probably why peanut butter sandwiches are the most popular plant-based sandwiches in the US according to USDA data. (If you’re curious, the popularity of cold cut sandwiches, burgers, and hot dogs outweighs the popularity of peanut butter sandwiches). 

    How Much Peanut Butter Are We Talking About?

    Americans consume an average of 4.4 pounds of peanut butter per year. That’s more than 60 2-tablespoon servings, or 4.5 16-ounce jars. For a family of four that consumes the average amount, that comes out to 18 jars of peanut butter per year, or about 1 jar every 3 weeks. 

    If you’re a peanut butter-loving household, I bet you have far more than that! Schoolchildren could easily eat 5 peanut butter sandwiches a week for the duration of the school year, or about 35 weeks. That adds up to 105 sandwiches, or more than 7 jars of peanut butter. That’s before adding in snacks and PB sandwiches on vacation! 

    How Much Peanut Butter in Peanut Butter Adventures?

    My household goes through far more than 18 jars of peanut butter a year. My son eats some, but not that much (and to be fair, a lot of his peanut butter consumption is at breakfast at my parents’ house!). 

    I estimate we go through 150 jars a year! That’s because I make sandwiches every week for a local food pantry. I use 3 jars most weeks, or enough for 30-40 sandwiches. I’m definitely doing my part to support the peanut butter industry! 

    Now, I’ve started carrying around a jar of peanut butter to give away to people who seem to need it. Unfortunately, there are a lot of people in my neighborhood who are grateful for something that is so affordable to me. 

    How to Make Peanut Butter

    Peanut butter is magical to me. Just put peanuts in a blender, and puree them until they turn into thick, sticky peanut butter. For a more spreadable texture, add 1-2 spoonfuls of oil. For flavor, add salt. It’s so simple!

    Peanut butter that you buy in stores can range from 100% peanuts to having ingredients like sugar, salt, and solid fats from hydrogenated soybean oil or tropical oils like palm oil. You’ll pay for the privilege of having natural, organic peanut butter with nothing but peanuts, but if you look around, there can be compromises, like peanut butter without hydrogenated oils. 

    Of course, there are all kinds of variations on peanut butter. Flavors of peanut butter include cinnamon, cocoa, and white chocolate. For decades, there’ve been jars of peanut butter and jelly stripes to make sandwich-making easier. 

    A Convenient and Nutritious Food

    Peanut butter needs no refrigeration. It’s ready to eat. It’s cholesterol-free, low in saturated fat, and high in healthy monounsaturated fats. It’s a source of plant-based protein, and it has dietary fiber. At about $2 per 16-ounce jar for a store brand of peanut butter, it’s remarkably inexpensive. I’ll go into cost comparisons with other foods in another post. 

    Healthy Ways to Use Peanut Butter

    A peanut butter sandwich on whole-grain sliced bread is one healthy choice for peanut butter. Here are a few variations on classic PB sandwiches. 

    Peanut butter on whole-grain bread has fiber and antioxidants.
    • Peanut butter on whole-grain tortilla or wrap, wrapped around a banana
    • Diced stewed (or microwaved) apple or pear with cinnamon on PB and whole-grain bread or toast
    • Peanut butter on half a whole-grain bagel, with pear slices

    Peanut butter is good for way more than sandwiches. 

    • Dip celery, carrots, apple slices, or pear slices into peanut butter.
    • Blend frozen banana chunks with peanut butter and cinnamon, cocoa powder, or voila extract.
    • Thin out creamy peanut butter to make a sauce for an Asian-inspired dish with whole-grain spaghetti
    • Add peanut butter to oatmeal or whole-wheat pancake batter, or top whole-grain pancakes or waffles with peanut butter instead of butter.
    • Top oatmeal, yogurt, or cottage cheese with peanut butter and fruit.

    For a healthier dessert, stuff dates with peanut butter – just watch the calories, since they add up fast!

    More Ways to Enjoy Peanut Butter

    If you’re looking for a treat without worrying about nutrition, there are any number of ways to enjoy peanut butter. 

    • Classic PB&J sandwich with white bread, peanut butter, and grape or strawberry jelly. Honey is another option.
    Peanut butter and jelly on white bread may be a happy memory from childhood for many people.
    • Peanut butter cookies or peanut butter oatmeal cookies. 
    • Peanut butter bars and peanut butter cheesecake.
    • Peanut butter frosted brownies or cake.
    • Energy balls with peanut butter, oats, sugar, honey, or powdered sugar, and cocoa powder. 
    • Peanut butter-filled pretzels
    • Peanut butter milkshakes and smoothies with added sugars.
    • Peanut butter pie, with or without whipped topping blended in or on top, and on a chocolate, graham cracker, or standard pie crust

    I’m excited to keep using peanut butter and giving it away. I’ll keep you posted on how my peanut butter adventures go!

    How do you use peanut butter?

  • Reasons to Eat Dairy: Should You Have More?

    Many people accept non-dairy substitutes as healthier than dairy products, but is it really best to avoid milk, yogurt, and cheese? Here’s a look at dairy recommendations, average consumption in the US, and nutrients in dairy products versus dairy-free substitutes. We’ll also look at why many people avoid dairy products and why you should…or shouldn’t. 

    Dairy Recommendations and Average Consumption

    The Dietary Guidelines suggest that adults get about 3 servings (“cup-equivalents”) per day of dairy products, with most choices being low in fat. Here are examples of 1 cup-equivalent servings.. 

    • 1 cup of skim milk or reduced-fat milk, kefir, or buttermilk
    • 1.5 ounces of low-fat or non-fat cheese like non-fat singles or low-fat cheddar, mozzarella, or Swiss cheese
    • 1 cup of low-fat or fat-free plain yogurt

    Camembert, feta, cotija, cottage cheese, ricotta cheese, and ice cream also count as dairy products. 

    The guidelines note that cream, sour cream, and cream cheese don’t count due to low calcium and protein content. Butter also doesn’t count. 

    Americans are low in dairy consumption. Men get about ⅔ of recommended amounts, and women get less than half. 

    Nutrients in Dairy Products and Non-Dairy Substitutes

    Important nutrients in dairy products are protein, calcium, and vitamin D. 

    • Protein in dairy products is high-quality or complete. It has all the essential amino acids.
    • Calcium is essential for strong bones, and most people don’t consume enough. This increases risk for osteoporosis later in life, which increases the risk of fractures. 
    • Vitamin D is in fortified milk and in some fortified cheeses and yogurt products. 

    Dairy products are among the main sources of calcium and vitamin D in our diets. 

    It’s also interesting that research studies find that people who consume more dairy products tend to have lower body weights.

    Start your day with yogurt, fruit, and seeds for a balanced and nutrient-dense breakfast.

    Non-dairy substitutes are likely to be low in protein, though they’re often high in calcium and vitamin D. They are also often fortified with vitamin B12, which is important if you’re on a vegan or plant-based diet. The only natural sources of vitamin B12 are animal-based foods like dairy products, eggs, and meat. 

    Reasons People May Avoid Dairy

    There are many reasons why some people should or need to choose dairy-free options. Some people may have milk allergies, when their immune system mounts a dangerous response to proteins in milk. It’s critical to avoid the specific proteins in dairy products that cause reactions, though the response is unrelated to lactose. 

    Lactose intolerance may be the best known reason for avoiding dairy products. It’s when your body has inadequate amounts of the enzyme lactase. This leads to trouble breaking down lactose, which is the type of sugar naturally present in cow’s milk. It’s not life-threatening, but consuming too much lactose can cause unpleasant gastrointestinal symptoms including diarrhea and an upset stomach.

    A glass of milk can be a good post-workout replenishment snack with protein and carbohydrates.

    Some people may avoid dairy because of the saturated fat content. For example, an ounce of brie cheese has 6 grams of saturated fat, though it’s not clear whether saturated fat in dairy products is as harmful as from fatty meat. People may also be concerned about cholesterol intake, though research supports that a diet low in saturated fat is far more important than cholesterol consumption.

    Here are more reasons why people may choose to avoid dairy.

    • They’ve heard that dairy products are unhealthy.
    • They don’t like the taste of milk, or they prefer the taste of almond milk or oat milk.
    • They don’t want calories from milk, and would prefer to drink something lower in calories like almond milk or water.
    • They don’t want sodium from cheese.
    • They don’t like the sour taste of plain yogurt and they don’t want the added sugars or sweeteners in flavored yogurt.

    How Much Dairy Can You Tolerate?

    Some people need to avoid dairy products entirely due to allergies or severe lactose intolerance. Still, most people with lactose intolerance can tolerate some lactose. Talk to your doctor if you’re not sure!

    In an article published in Evidence Reports/Technology Assessments, researchers looked at how much lactose people who reported being lactose intolerant could have at one time without symptoms. They found that the vast majority of participants in studies did not report symptoms until they had at least 12 grams of lactose. 

    In comparison, an ounce of cheese may have 1-3 grams of lactose. A single-serve container of Greek yogurt has about 6 grams. A cup of milk may have 12 grams of lactose. 

    If you’re determined to drink milk and get all of the nutrients it has, but you can’t handle lactose, consider lactose-free milk. 

    Easy Ways to Boost Dairy Consumption

    A fruit and cheese platter can be a nutritious and satisfying alternative to a sugar-sweetened dessert.

    Here are ways to add dairy products to your day for more protein and calcium.

    • Have yogurt or milk with cereal.
    • Make oatmeal with milk, or make overnight oatmeal with yogurt or cottage cheese.
    • Choose sliced cheese instead of processed meat for sandwiches and in salads.
    • Add cheese to eggs instead of adding sausage or bacon pieces.
    • Have cereal with milk or yogurt.
    • Use parmesan cheese and ground almonds for breading instead of white bread crumbs.
    • Top vegetables with cheese.
    • Use low-fat string cheese sticks instead of meat sticks for snacks.
    • Have cheese and fruit instead of sugar-sweetened foods for dessert.
    • Add milk to your coffee or tea.
    • Drink milk after a workout to support muscle recovery and to replenish glycogen (stored carbohydrates).
    • Make dips with cottage cheese or yogurt.

    How much dairy do you consume? Are there certain types you love and can tolerate? Do you choose non-dairy substitutes sometimes? 

  • Top Ways to Get Your Kids to Eat Vegetables

    Do your children eat enough vegetables? Most kids don’t even come close. The USDA says only half of children eat a vegetable on a given day. In comparison, the Dietary Guidelines suggest at least 1 ½-2 ½ cup of vegetables per day for children ages 4-8 years.

    The shortfall is even more shocking when you realize that half of these vegetables are potatoes, often as French fries or potato chips.

    Still, it’s possible to get children to eat vegetables. With some trial and a lot of error, I’ve found a few approaches that work for our family. Here are 9 strategies I use to make sure my child gets his vegetables (almost) every day.

    1. Model Prioritizing Vegetables

    What you do may have more influence on your children than what you.say or what anyone else says or tells them. If you eat your vegetables on a daily basis, chances are that they will, too. They may develop this healthy habit later rather than sooner, but they learn from what they see in the home and when they’re out with you.

    Are they learning…

    • That vegetables are on the plate at most meals, or that vegetables are an afterthought for some days, sometimes?
    • That a well-stocked fridge, freezer, and counter have vegetables, or that if vegetables run out, it’s okay to wait until the next big trip to the supermarket?
    • That you look for vegetables when you eat out, or that vegetables are only for boring occasions at home?
    • That vegetables are delicious and fun, or that they’re a chore to eat?

    Think about your meals and your home, and what they are telling your children about vegetables.

    2. Let Them Have Preferences 

    Ask, and they’ll tell you. My son is very clear about what he wants. I let him choose his vegetables from some options that I offer. It’s rare that I go against him. He’s happy because he chose something he likes, and I’m happy because he’ll eat his vegetables. Some kids love raw, colorful vegetables. My son only eats cooked ones except for tomatoes. 

    Some kids love colorful foods, so try everything!

    Another benefit of offering choices is that when kids get to choose, they can take ownership. It happens with clothes they choose, room decorations, and many other areas of their lives. It seems to translate to food, too.

    3. Serve Small Portions

    I used to try to get him to eat more vegetables by serving large portions. It would always be vegetables that he likes, whether eggplant, broccoli, or green beans. And he wouldn’t eat a bite. 

    It took me some time to realize that smaller portions worked better. Maybe the large amounts were so daunting that he was afraid to even try. Now, I serve smaller, doable amounts, and offer second helpings. I can also increase the amount he gets by serving small portions of two different vegetables rather than trying to get him to eat one large portion of one type of vegetable. 

    4. Have a Backup Plan

    Occasionally, for various reasons, afternoon comes and vegetables don’t seem to have made it into the day. It’s helpful to have a convenient backup for those situations. Thankfully, my son loves tomatoes in any form, whether raw, cooked, in tomato sauce, or in vegetable juice. He’ll drink an 11-oz can of vegetable juice if I ask him to. That takes care of 2-3 servings of vegetables without fuss.

    A can of vegetable juice is my secret weapon for days when vegetables have been scarce.

    5. Don’t Make an Issue

    Fighting over food is rarely the best answer. It’s more pleasant to let things happen naturally. If possible, you can pave the way for the “natural” course of things to include vegetables. 

    A bowl of grape tomatoes can disappear quickly, adding fiber and vitamin C to a child’s day!

    For example, when my son comes home from school in the afternoon, he’s probably hungry. I might strategically place a container of grape tomatoes (and a napkin) where he is sitting doing his homework. Usually the contents disappear by the time I come back. For your children, it might be a bowl of carrots with ketchup, some whole-grain crackers with tomato sauce, or cucumbers with yogurt or dip, depending on what your child likes.

    6. But Do Be Firm

    Sometimes, I have to be direct. This might happen when we’re planning to eat with others. For example, if we’re ordering a pizza for our weekly family lunch with my parents, I may tell my son that he’ll have vegetables with his pizza. In that case, I try to let him choose the vegetable, whether it’s a roma tomato, grape tomatoes, cooked carrots, sugar snap peas, or Brussels sprouts.  Once expectations are set, he’s likely to eat his vegetable serving before asking for more pizza. 

    7. Avoid Embarrassment

    I’m a fan of letting people feel comfortable around food and their food choices. If my son is going to a party later where the options are sure to be nutrition-less, I may add extra vegetables to his previous meal or snack. There’s no need to make him feel self-conscious by making him be the only one to eat vegetables at an event, and there’s no need to make him feel guilty if he doesn’t eat well at the event. 

    8. Be Sneaky If Necessary 

    There are all kinds of kid-friendly ways to increase vegetable consumption. Use them when all else fails, or take advantage of them on a daily basis.

    Who knew that pizza could be a tool for getting kids to eat vegetables? Add extra sauce, cooked eggplant with parmesan, and sun-dried tomatoes for a vegetable-packed treat.

    Here are some ideas for adding vegetables to meals in palatable and sometimes sneaky ways.

    • Add diced onions to eggs.
    • Serve extra tomato sauce on pasta, and add cooked tomatoes or other cooked vegetables.
    • Dice broccoli or cauliflower, cook it, and add it to macaroni and cheese.
    • Blend eggplant, grated zucchini, or grated carrots into meatballs and meatloaf.
    • Make vegetable soup with chicken and barley, whole-grain spaghetti, or brown rice.

    9. Normalize Vegetables Outside the Home

    Healthy eating is always, not just at home! Eating out offers opportunities to try new vegetables cooked in different ways. Consider these vegetable-heavy dishes from various cuisines. 

    Use restaurant food to get your kids to love vegetables!
    • Chinese beef or chicken with broccoli
    • Chinese beef, tofu, or chicken stir fry with vegetables
    • Mexican chicken or shrimp fajitas with onions and peppers
    • Italian eggplant parmesan – let them learn to love eggplant at the restaurant, then make healthier versions at home!
    • Mexican vegetarian burritos with grilled squash, peppers, and onions

    By the way, these tips can also work for adults who may be short on vegetables. Might that include you? 

    I hope some of these ideas help you add vegetables to your children’s lives, and hopefully reduce tension around begging them to eat a vegetable. 

    What are your best tips for getting children to eat their vegetables? What are your biggest fails? Comment below!

  • Accept What Children Say About Their Hunger

    There are times when my son says he’s hungry, and it doesn’t seem possible. This might happen after he’s already eaten a lot that day or at that meal. It also tends to happen when he knows there’s a treat around, such as if we’re at an event where food is sold or provided.

    Keep reading to find out how I respond to it. As with everything else in parenting and most things in life, I never know if I’m approaching it in the best way. Please post your suggestions and ideas in the comments!

    Avoiding Conflict for Health’s Sake

    My first thought is that he can’t possibly be hungry. My instinct is to say so, and explain why I believe that he’s not really hungry. I suppress my instinct because I don’t think it’s the right answer to directly disagree with him. 

    If I tell him he’s not hungry, I’m:

    • Telling him that I don’t believe him. That’s not how I want our relationship to work; I want him to know that I’m here for him for anything.
    • Suggesting that he shouldn’t listen to what his body is telling him. That’s an unhealthy route, since listening carefully to your body, and responding appropriately, can lead to better lifestyle choices and health. 

    I try not to disagree with him. Instead, I try to figure out why he says he’s hungry, and address it appropriately. Here are some patterns that I’ve detected, and how I respond to each. 

    Hungry for Nutrients

    I start by assuming that it’s as simple as it appears: that my son is hungry. For some reason, there are days when he just needs more food. Maybe it’s a growth spurt. Maybe he’s been active. Maybe he hadn’t eaten enough in the past few days. 

    To see if that’s the case, I offer him healthy foods. They’re foods he likes, but not as much as something like shaved ice or cupcakes. Tomatoes, a tangerine or orange, or a low-fat string cheese stick are likely options. 

    Grape tomatoes can be a perfect stall tactic and way to satisfy hunger.

    A Craving Triggered By Availability

    Environmental triggers can cause cravings, perceived hunger, and snack attacks in kids just like in adults. My son tends to “be hungry” when he wants a bag of chips at a birthday party or notices an ice cream truck at the park.

    How could a child not feel “hungry” when they’re at a party and see cupcakes like these?

    I’m generally good at identifying these triggers, but managing them is another story. I tend to say yes at birthday parties or other events where his friends are eating those foods. The goal is to prevent him from feeling different from his friends or feeling deprived. I also want him to know that those foods are available to him; he doesn’t have to sneak them and not tell me. 

    At other times, it depends on the situation. If he’s had a lot of junk recently and it seems like overkill, the answer is no. Sometimes the “no” will come with a “maybe next time” or, “let’s buy something similar at a store.” That’s a common one for ice cream truck fare; I’d rather pay $3 for a box of frozen novelties than $4 for one serving.

    If it seems reasonable, it can be his daily serving of junk food, which he mostly gets to choose. Sometimes he offers to pay for it; in those cases, I usually say yes. That gives him control over his money and decisions, and avoids a tantrum (are you seeing a pattern here?).

    Ice cream bars from a truck can be more fun, but are they always worth it?

    Maybe He’s Just Trying His Luck…

    Sometimes, it seems like he just needs something to do, wants attention, or is just curious about what he can get away with. It often seems as though he wants me to say no just so that he can fight it or feel comfortable knowing that there are rules.

    It can be impossible to say no to a cute child!

    So, the first response is an offer of a healthy snack and water. Then I try to distract his attention. If I don’t have much time, such as while I am working and can’t give him my full attention, I try to satisfy him with a snack, say, a bowl of watermelon or a container of grape tomatoes. He’s also easily amused by pouring beverages over ice cubes. Thankfully, he often manages to get involved in an activity by the time he’s done eating or playing with his food or drink.

    Water Can Never Hurt

    I also offer him water. Adults often mistake thirst for hunger, so children might, too. Even if not, it can’t be a bad habit to drink water throughout the day. So, I try to offer water routinely in response to unexpected hunger. 

    What If Kids Aren’t Hungry?

    I’ve seen parents pressure their children to eat when they say they’re not hungry. Parents often seem to be terrified that their children don’t eat enough, but in most cases, it doesn’t seem healthy to me to force children to eat. 

    I worry about these effects. 

    • The child ends up with junk food in that moment because the parent has decided that they need to eat anything to avoid starving.
    • The child learns that their parents are so desperate for them to eat, that they can hold out for junk food all the time. 
    • As with telling a child that he’s not hungry even if he says is, arguing that they’re hungry when they say they’re not encourages them to ignore their body’s signals. 
    • Similarly, arguing with them plants the seed that you don’t believe them.

    Very few children in the US are at risk of starvation. If you believe your child is, it’s critical that you take them to a qualified healthcare provider for evaluation and treatment. 

    Here are some tips for parents who are convinced their children are in need of food when they say they’re not hungry. 

    • Have set meal times. That way, you can eat with them and encourage them to eat. Sitting at the table also reduces the chances of kids being distracted and playing games. 
    • Keep the food healthy. Serve healthy food, and eat healthy food yourself. That makes healthy food something normal rather than a punishment or chore. 
    • Don’t start a food fight. It’s as bad to fight over forcing them to eat than over stopping them from eating treats. 
    • Consider asking a healthcare provider about any deficiencies. Often, a daily multivitamin and mineral supplement can calm a parent’s nerves. 
    • If it makes you feel better, consider offering a protein shake or meal replacement shake that’s fortified with nutrients and has fiber. A glass of milk does well, too, for protein and calcium. 

    Hunger management is tough for everyone. Kids usually have a better handle on their hunger than adults, but they can have trouble expressing themselves. With their dear parents, they can also be manipulative or have underlying goals. 

    How do you respond to, “I’m hungry,” when you’re not sure if it’s true?

  • What’s the Right Answer When Parenting? I Never Know Until It’s Too Late

    Every child is an experiment of one. You’d think that would at least mean that after weeks and months and years, you’d get to know your child. You’d think wrong, at least in my case. 

    It seems as though I’m slow on the learn-to-parent spectrum. Every situation feels like a toss-up to me. 

    Take July 4, for example. In a previous post, I explained that my son and I had a lovely time at the July 4 block party and potluck in our neighborhood. Now I’ll explain why I bought my son a doughnut before a potluck, why I made the decision, and whether it was the right one. 

    Spoiler alert: Probably not.

    Setting the Scene

    For days, my son and I had been fighting. Actually, it had been months, but it was more intense that week. It’s not unusual; I think he’s so well-behaved at school and with other people that he needs to balance it with some meltdowns in a comfortable setting. Since I’m his only parent, I get the full force of his anger.

    That morning, there was a July 4 event at the local park. It’s casual, and includes watermelon, doughnuts, and corn dogs from the local Homeowners Association. Community police also come and let kids climb into their cars.

    After a rough week, I didn’t have it in me to force my son to get ready to go. I have that battle with him every morning to get out the door, and every evening to get ready for bed. I didn’t want to force him to get ready for a party, so I told him to let me know when he was ready to go.

    The Party Was Over

    We left our home at 12:30 p.m. Needless to say, the park was all but deserted. We probably missed the end of the event by over an hour. 

    My son started saying that he’s a failure and can’t get anywhere on time. When he thinks he’s failed, my son tends to build himself into a state. Failure becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. I couldn’t face another few hours of unpleasant behavior if I didn’t have to, so I did what any responsible parent would do: I offered to buy him a doughnut.

    Rising to the Occasion?

    I wasn’t worried about teaching my son that tantrums lead to doughnuts. He’s a great kid to everyone else, so I know that he’s going to turn out fine. Since I wasn’t worried about long-term repercussions, and I’d already had in my head that he was going to eat a doughnut that morning, so nutrition wasn’t a top concern, I became selfish at that moment. The offer of the doughnut was a Hail Mary, hoping it would buy me some nice moments. 

    I told him that it was fine that he missed the party, and he was happy doing whatever he’d been doing in our home instead of going to the party. I told him that if he needed that time to relax instead of going to the park, it was good he’d taken it. And, I told him that we could go get a red, white, and blue star-sprinkled doughnut. 

    Got What I Wanted

    Shockingly, it worked. He instantly smiled, got excited, and offered to pay for the doughnut. We discussed the possibilities en route to the doughnut shop, and planned when and where we were going to eat it. He even said he was going to buy it for me!

    As a bonus, going to get a doughnut meant we had to walk to the doughnut shop. That meant I got to take a longer walk than if we had just gone to the park and back. 

    The victory continued after we got home with the doughnut. My son got out a tray to serve it on, a knife, and two forks. He offered drinks, and we sat and ate the doughnut together. It was exactly what I wanted after a tough week. 

    Benefits of Healthy Food

    I’m a nutritionist. I believe in healthy eating. Compared to less healthy choices, I know that more nutritious and portion-controlled choices can:

    • Improve mood
    • Maintain energy and blood sugar
    • Reduce hunger
    • Increase ability to focus and think

    And that’s within a few minutes! Long-term, healthy eating helps with: 

    • Weight control
    • Chronic disease prevention and management
    • Reduction of stress and stress hormones
    • Promotion of strong bones and muscles
    • Nourish you

    Junk food does the opposite. 

    When Junk Food Can Be the Answer

    Knowing that healthy food has so many benefits, why would junk food ever be the “right” choice? For most of us, there’s a place for fried foods, fatty foods, sugary foods, and starchy foods. It’s not a place we should visit often, but there are times when the benefits may outweigh the drawbacks. 

    In this case, the doughnut wasn’t for physical nourishment. Neither my son nor I needed a ring of fried refined doughy carbs topped with sugary frosting. What I did need was some pleasant time together. The doughnut let me buy some beautiful time with my son, and even allowed him the chance to feel good about himself by serving us the doughnut when we got home. 

    There’s also the warning that it’s only okay to eat foods that your body can handle. If you have a chronic condition that prohibits certain foods, for example, or if your doctor tells you to avoid certain items, then stay within these restrictions!

    Set Up for Success

    My son and I both do better when we feel good about ourselves. We both do worse when we feel bad. As it turned out on July 4, he rose to the occasion and seized an opportunity to feel good about himself. He clearly felt good about being kind to me, taking charge of serving the doughnut, and acting pleasant while we ate. 

    What would you have done? Are there times when a bribe is okay? When is junk food an acceptable option compared to nutritious items? 

  • Left-Handed Hoops: Pain-free fun at the cost of my dignity

    I really wanted to play basketball at the park this morning. I’m not good at it at the best of times, and today was more disastrous than usual – in some ways. In the end, though, I overcame back pain, potential embarrassment, and bright sunlight to get what I wanted from my morning. Here’s the story. 

    Why I Wanted to Shoot Hoops

    I didn’t need the exercise per se; I’d gotten in my run, and was sure to take a walk to pick up my son later in the day. But I felt like being on the court. I feel relaxed and calm there; there’s no pressure to achieve anything in particular, and there’s no time pressure. I can do what I want, move my body a bit, and sometimes feel coordinated or even athletic. I’m a good kinetic learner, and I find that I can concentrate on phone calls or audio lessons when I’m moving, whether walking, shooting baskets, or hitting a tennis ball against a backboard. 

    My Usual Routine

    The courts are at a local park about a mile from my home. One basket is in the shade; the other two are not. I only shoot, never play in a game. I don’t think I’m good enough for anyone to want to play against me, and I don’t know that I’d want to anyway. I’m too afraid of getting hurt. 

    Usually I’ll warm up by shooting for 10-20 minutes at close range from various angles. Then I’ll do 10 minutes of left-handed lay-ups, and 10 minutes of right-handed layups. I’ll do 10-20 minutes of shooting from the sides of the court, and then 10-20 minutes of alternating sides from along the sides of the key. I may finish with more shooting from various angles. The structure may sound neurotic, but it’s just how I am. I usually have a plan. 

    Today’s Laughable Situation

    Today wasn’t one of those days when I felt coordinated, much less athletic. To start with, my upper back has been hurting on the right side for a week. I’m right-handing. The pain makes me unable to swing a tennis racket, and shooting a basketball with my right hand is painful. The result was that today was a day to practice my left-handed shooting. 

    To make matters worse, the court in the shade was busy. My court was in the sun. It wasn’t terribly hot, but due to the angle of the sun, I was only able to shoot from one side of the court. Unfortunately, that side was the right side. My left-handed layups caused me to choose between looking directly into the sun and not looking at the basket while shooting. Not only did that make me miss most of my shots, but I started blindly putting my arms up to protect my face so that the unseen ball didn’t hit me on a rebound.

    Finally, there was the issue of my “ma’am” hat. For 30 years, I wore a baseball cap outside to protect my eyes from the sun. This spring, I moved into a more protective sun hat with a wide brim all the way around. Instantly, people started calling me “ma’am” and asking me if I was my son’s grandma. I like wearing it to play basketball because it has a chin strap and doesn’t fall off, not to mention that it helps protect my eyes. 

    A Successful Outing

    Picture the scene. A middle-aged woman wearing running clothes and a sun hat is awkwardly throwing a basketball in the general direction of a basket, and putting up her arms after shooting in fear of being hit by the ball. 

    The best part is that I got what I wanted. I was on the court for about an hour. While playing, I phoned a friend and listened to a language podcast. I even got to wave to a couple of basketball players who are regulars at that time in the morning, and I saw some tennis players who play daily on the adjacent courts. I had minimal pain, and felt happy. 

    I don’t by any means encourage anyone to move through pain. I do encourage people to find safe and pain-free paths to achieve their goals, even if it means being creative and modifying your original plan. Especially important is to do things for yourself without worrying about whether some stranger is looking to see whether you’re shooting right-handed or left-handed, shooting air balls or making swishes, or wearing basketball shoes or a “ma’am” hat. 

    What’s your funny or proud story about doing what’s best for you without worrying about what other people think? 

  • Does “Dairy-Free” Mean Healthy? Is It Better for Weight Loss?

    When I talk to people who are trying to lose weight or eat healthier, they often tell me they’re choosing dairy-free options like coconut milk, almond yogurt, or cashew cheese. They’re often shocked to find out that these options often don’t help them reach their protein goals, and may not even have fewer calories or more nutrients than dairy products. 

    Are you choosing dairy-free alternatives to cow’s milk, cheese, and yogurt? Think about these. 

    • Almond or oat milk at coffee shops instead of milk or cream
    • Almond or soy-based yogurt 
    • Cashew-containing cheese alternatives

    These options are now available in grocery stores, at coffee shops, and at schools as they become more popular compared to dairy products. But are dairy-free alternatives always the healthiest choice? 

    Non-Dairy Products May Lack Protein

    When you think of nutrients in milk, cheese, and yogurt, you might think of protein. Milk and yogurt each have about 8 grams of protein per cup, while cheese has about 6-7 grams of protein per ounce. This is about the amount in an egg. Greek yogurt can have 15-20 grams of protein per cup, or the amount in 2-3 ounces of fish or chicken.

    Check the label instead of assuming dairy-free cheese has calcium and protein!

    Protein is an essential nutrient that helps you stay full for longer after a meal or snack, but it’s often lacking in plant-based dairy alternatives. Soy milk has a good amount of protein, but a cup of almond milk has only 1-2 grams. Even something that sounds healthy, like cashew cheese, has less than 1 gram of protein per ounce, despite a price tag that’s about 3-4 times as expensive as dairy-based cheese.

    Watch Out for Calcium and Bone Health

    Dairy products are still the major source of calcium in our diets. People who avoid dairy products are more likely to be low in calcium, leading to osteoporosis and a higher risk for fractures later in life. A serving of dairy products, whether a cup of milk or yogurt, or an ounce of cheese, often has 15-30% of the daily value for calcium. In addition, it’s highly absorbable.

    Dairy-free alternatives are often fortified with calcium, but not always. It’s a good idea to read the label when you’re choosing a product. While you’re reading the nutrition facts panel, look for items with 10-30% of vitamin D. It helps your body absorb and use calcium so your bones get full benefit.

    Benefits of Non-Dairy Alternatives

    Non-dairy alternatives can have some health benefits. Many of them are designed to support people on vegan, or plant-based, diets. For that reason, they’re often high in vitamin B12, which is only naturally found in animal-based products. 

    In addition, unsweetened almond milk and unsweetened coconut milk have 30-40 calories per cup, which is less than half the amount as in 1 cup of fat-free milk. Plant-based milks are naturally cholesterol-free, unlike cow’s milk. 

    Many people enjoy non-dairy alternatives more. They can be creamier or sweeter. They can also have a longer shelf life, which is important for people living alone or who only take milk in their cereal or coffee, for example. 

    What’s the Right Choice for Health and Weight Loss?

    It’s important to make the right choice for yourself. Consider factors like the following.

    • Do I need more protein for health and to feel fuller?
    • How much calcium is there?
    • Are there extra ingredients that I don’t want?
    • What other nutrients have been added?
    • Can I afford it?

    The bottom line is to know your reasons for choosing dairy products or dairy-free alternatives. Check nutrition facts panels and the list of ingredients for calories, nutrients, and ingredients you’re curious about. Whenever you’re unsure, ask your healthcare provider. It’s always good to get trusted and professional advice!

    Oat and almond milk can be low-calorie alternatives to creamer, which can be helpful for weight loss and heart health.

  • What Everyone Wants to Know: What was at the July 4 Potluck?

    I posted my reflections from the Fourth, talking about balancing healthy food and activity choices with the just-as-critical need for socialization, fun, and relaxation that can recharge you for the coming weeks and months. Today, let’s keep it light-hearted with a run-down of the food and beverages at the potluck I attended. 

    It was an afternoon block party with 100’s of attendees from the neighborhood. The hosts asked attendees to bring something to share. Unlike at many potlucks, there were no guidelines on what to bring, or who should bring items in various categories like beverages, appetizers, proteins, sides, desserts, condiments, and tableware. We did all know that there was a grill, and that it was a casual event.

    Spoiler alert: it worked out beautifully!

    Setting the Scene

    When my son and I arrived, we went straight to the food tables to drop off our contributions. As I had asked my mom to bake and bring a dessert, my son and I felt free to be lazy. We brought a package of napkins, a bottle of light ranch salad dressing, a bottle of honey mustard, and a can of whipped topping. There turned out to be a large bowl of fruit including berries, grapes, and tangerines, making the whipped topping look ideal. 

    There were 4 long tables with food and tableware, about 6 coolers filled with alcoholic and kid-friendly beverages, and a table with ice and more beverages. The tables were vaguely organized with plates, napkins, and plastic ware first, followed by items related to grilled foods, followed by sides, desserts, and finally beverages. It was all refreshingly casual and hands-off – you were free to put your food down and take whatever you wanted whenever you wanted.

    The Food at the Fourth of July Block Party and Potluck

    So what was there? Pretty much everything was there. People had brought raw proteins, including hot dogs, beef burger patties, and even salmon. There were also pans of cooked proteins, including pigs in blankets and chicken drumsticks. Hot dog, hamburger, and brioche buns were abundant, as were condiments from ketchup, pickles, and relish to several different types of mustard. Our honey mustard fit right in.

    There were more meatballs than you might see at a typical event, probably because the day’s cookoff item was meatballs. Merguez meatballs with a side of cooked carrots, meatballs with tomato sauce, and meatballs with pickles were a few varieties. They all looked delicious, suitable for a contest, and made with a good amount of fatty beef or pork. 

    Next up were side dishes. It looked like a lot of people put their hearts into their homemade recipes. Salad examples were salmon and pea rotini salad, spaghetti salad, tomato balsamic salad with mushrooms, chopped basil, and mozzarella balls, and a few kinds of coleslaw, none of which contained mayonnaise. There were also various 7-layer bean dips.

    There was even a simple vegetable tray that had home-cut vegetables, which is a rare sight these days. It had red and yellow bell pepper strips, rainbow baby carrots, Persian cucumber spears, and celery sticks. I helped myself to quite a bit, and enjoyed the honey mustard I’d brought with the vegetables. 

    Desserts included two beautiful pumpkin loaves from my mom, sliced into appropriately-sized pieces. One loaf had a chocolate swirl topping. Other desserts were cheesecake bars topped with berries, watermelon wedges, and brownies.

    The beverage selection was quite a treat! There was alcohol of all descriptions. There was homemade lemonade – a 5-gallon container that must have taken forever for someone to make – as well as a 5-gallon pitcher of ice water infused with strawberries and mint. Cans of sparkling water, ouches of juice drinks, and sodas were also there, along with plenty of ice. 

    My son and I weren’t the only ones to bring store-bought items. The other store-bought items that we saw had also been chosen carefully and given with love. Classic mayo-laden potato salad, sliced cheese for the burgers, bags of potato chips, tubs of hummus and guacamole, large chocolate chunk cookies, boxes of doughnuts, and red, white, and blue star cookies are a few examples. 

    How Anyone Can Make Healthy Choices

    Here’s what I focused on, though I probably still ate more than I needed.

    • Raw vegetables. They were so fresh and good!
    • Pickles. I don’t usually buy pickles because I don’t need the extra sodium, but I do love pickles. 
    • Tomatoes and mozzarella balls sitting in balsamic vinaigrette. They were halved grape tomatoes, and absolutely delicious.
    • A few goodies from my son’s plate. Isn’t that what kids are for? I think we all know that when you eat from your child’s plate, the calories, sugar, and fat don’t count…
    • Strawberry and mint-infused ice water was a beautiful, refreshing, and healthy touch.

    What Do Americans Eat on July Fourth?

    I can only tell you my experience, but it is a sample size of hundreds of families. Here’s what I found.

    • Burgers and hot dogs with all the fixings
    • Coleslaw, pasta salad, and potato salad
    • Watermelon and other fresh fruit
    • Sugary drinks, alcoholic drinks, and low-calorie drinks
    • Desserts, and more desserts
    • Chips, vegetables, and dip

    Conclusions: as with most other situations, you can eat healthy, eat terribly, or do something in between. 

    What did you eat this Independence Day?

  • Reflections from the Fourth: Balancing Family, Fun, and Physical and Mental Well-Being

    Reflections from the Fourth: Balancing Family, Fun, and Physical and Mental Well-Being

    Holidays like the Fourth of July can be tricky for anyone trying to make healthy choices, so it’s important to balance your choices. Some choices – like grilling skinless chicken instead of a ground beef patty – may help you make progress towards your health and weight goals today. Other decisions – like staying out later than usual to watch fireworks – may seem like a short-term physical setback, but they can strengthen your foundation for longer-term success. 

    Here’s how my Fourth of July panned out – and it wasn’t entirely healthy!

    Promises and Challenges of a Summer Holiday

    The Fourth of July can feel so promising because of a day off of work, a general good mood around the household and neighborhood, and the prospect of attending local events. Our local opportunities include a pancake breakfast fundraiser in a community center parking lot, a local parade in which anyone can march or ride, a gathering at a park with doughnuts, watermelon, and community police who let children go into their cars, and a block party that includes a potluck, raffle, and kid-friendly activities. We’re lucky to have so much nearby!

    It’s not all positive, though! First, most parents will tell you that holidays are challenging. There’s no school or summer camp, which means children are at home. Their company can be a delight, and they can inject excitement and joy into a holiday that may otherwise barely be a blip on the radar, but there’s no denying that it takes more energy to have a child at home than not. 

    Food is another July 4 challenge – it’s everywhere from parades to day-time and fireworks-watching potlucks and gatherings. You can easily consume thousands of calories from standard fare like the following. 

    • Fatty steaks, burgers, and hot dogs, and cheese and buns that come with them
    • Potato salad, pasta salad, and coleslaw
    • Mayonnaise, guacamole, hummus, and salad dressings
    • Pies, cupcakes, brownies, and doughnuts

    That’s before adding in calories from lemonade, sodas, and alcoholic beverages. 

    Other challenges to pursuing your health goals can include disruptions to your routine such as sleeping in instead of exercising, socializing instead of cooking, and watching fireworks instead of starting your bedtime routine. 

    Independence Day Food Opportunities and Strategies

    Throughout the day, you’re likely to find nutritious or low-calorie choices like watermelon, corn on the cob, grilled chicken or veggie burgers, and raw vegetables. Load up your plate with these types of food!

    Limit creamy salads like coleslaw and mayo-laden potato and pasta salad. Look for green salads, cowboy caviar with beans and vegetables, and other vibrant options like caprese salad or other light, vegetable-based dishes. Use Dijon or yellow mustard and a small amount of ketchup on burgers or veggie dogs. 

    If you’re going to a potluck, bring a dish or some components that are healthy. 

    • A fruit or vegetable platter, or berries, watermelon wedges, or baby carrots
    • Skinless chicken or a package of lean ground turkey patties or veggie burgers to grill
    • Light condiments like mustard and vinaigrette dressing
    • A package of whole-grain hamburger or hot dog buns, or whole-grain tortillas or wraps

    Drink plenty of water throughout the day. Bring your own full water bottle if you’re not sure that there will be water available. 

    More Tips for Better Physical and Mental Health on Independence Day

    I had a wonderful Independence Day. A good deal of it was due to being a lucky parent. My parents were willing – as always when they’re in town! – to watch my son while I took time to run, shoot some hoops in the park, and have a few thoughts by myself. 

    Another stroke of luck is that my son is a marvelous child on special days like holidays. He is excited about events, and engaged and interested. That makes it easier to hang out with him, exhausting though it can be. 

    Another suggestion might be to keep perspective. It didn’t seem all that important to start food fights with my son; instead, we appreciated the special food. My hope is that he’ll learn to enjoy special food without guilt. I also want him to grow up without a sense of desperation to eat it all, as some adults develop because they’re afraid they won’t have another chance. 

    It also seemed more important to enjoy the block party with the neighbors than to worry about whether he was eating a doughnut. Everyone looks forward to it every year; we do, too. The abundance of food may not be the best for weight management in the moment, but the friendships and a sense of community come in handy throughout the year as we depend on each other during life’s ups and downs. 

    So, I would say this July 4 was a great time, I’m ready to eat healthy tomorrow, and I am grateful for all that I have – family, friends, and my neighborhood. 

    How do you find balance on July 4 and other holidays?

    fireworks on July 4